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  1. Jack,
    I have recently found your blog and have enjoyed your writing and exposition about some difficult texts and topics. I have always understood biblical marriage in light of a covenantal commitment (an agreement between two individuals with each other and with God). Am I accurate in using this “covenant” lens for marriage? I would love to understand a bit more about where this idea comes from and looks like through the scriptures. Thanks!

    • When I taught a seminary course on this subject, I ended the discussion of the Biblical view of marriage with the idea that marriage is a covenant based on mutual love. Here is a summary of that section, as taken from my book, Tough Questions, Biblical Answers, Part One, pp. 14-15. — “A final point is that marriage is a relationship of covenant love. Here is where the essence of marriage is most firmly grounded in God’s own nature. God’s relation to His people is often described in terms of marriage, where God is the husband and His people the wife (just as Christ is the bridegroom and the church His bride: Eph 5:22-23; II Cor 11:2; Rev 19:7; 21:2, 9). The very essence of this relation between God and His people is covenant faithfulness and covenant love. Even when Israel committed spiritual adultery by following idols, like a faithful husband God remained true to His covenant vows (Jer 31:32). His love for His bride was so great that He was willing to forgive her most wanton behavior; His love was willing to say, ‘Nevertheless!’ See Ezekiel 16, especially verses 53 and 60. See also Hosea 2:14-23. Ephesians 5:25-33 presents Christ’s great self-sacrificing love for His church as the pattern for the loving relation between husband and wife. This is the way we must view marriage. It is a covenant, a mutual commitment. It is a solemn promise in which each spouse vows to stand by the other and to love the other and to be faithful to the other forever. Young brides and bridegrooms should not think of marriage as an experiment or a trial, or as a tentative and conditional bond that is no stronger than a ‘granny knot’ or a slip knot, ready to dissolve under the slightest pressure. Marriage is a permanent and exclusive commitment, and should never be thought of in any other way. But is it possible for it to become and remain such in actuality, despite the contemporary pressures against it? Definitely, as long as the covenant is made and maintained in love. We are speaking not just of eros, or romantic love. We are speaking of agape, the caring and self-giving love with which God loves His bride; the love that loves ‘in spite of’ and not ‘because’; the love that seeks not one’s own happiness but the happiness of the other; the love that says, ‘Not my will, but yours be done.’ This is what makes a marriage ‘work,’ because this is what marriage is all about.”

  2. I have also read, in two places, (one being the study notes in my ESV bible, the other I forget) that Ezra doesn’t use the usual words for wife and divorce, but rather wording that suggests ‘partner’ and ‘put away’. i.e. Lesser terms. Is that significant? I’m no Hebrew scholar!